After the Affair: First Aid Toolkit for Infidelity
The unthinkable has happened. You've just found out that the person you're in love with has been involved romantically or sexually with another person. You didn't see it coming, and it's hard to even contemplate how this could have happened.
Your mind is racing with questions, your body is reeling with emotion. You want to stay together, but how can the two of you possibly get through this?
Seeking professional help in the form of a licensed therapist who specializes in work with couples is the best course of action. But in the event that you cannot do so, this course instructed by two couples therapists is an overview of what emotions and behaviors you may expect to see and feel as the betrayed partner, and the partner who engaged in the affair.
You'll learn how to spot destructive communication patterns, and what healthier communication sounds like.
In this course you will:
Understand what reactions and emotional experiences are normal after the discovery of an affair.
Understand link between emotional experience and behavior.
Identify healthy methods of communicating to your partner.
Describe how reactions to infidelity can resemble reactions to trauma.
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Intro Terms Disclaimer
10m
Audio Only - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1W576KpvnJLb9FWP6_zsOKJx0HvAVmUW0/view?usp=share_link
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02. Betrayal is a form of Trauma
4m 46s
Audio Only - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1ipYJIvzfCI-c1VUiGctI03aZqd_zYwKs/view?usp=share_link
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03. What is Trauma?
37m
Audio Only - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1OKijO4uyRVbvmQQDjANtNrIeuM8H23g4/view?usp=share_link
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04. Setting Up a Functional Point of View
23m
Audio Only - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1YbiawyvUGdNB5CkcedMUhyedQIw9n_P3/view?usp=share_link
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05. Unending Arguments
31m
Audio Only - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1LU-wFY2XLJ9dNKE6duD-wzt6XjzGUxjh/view?usp=share_link
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06. Influencing Actions
14m
Audio Only - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1npA0nKu4-6fkiwpvkjXN8DeapkbMB5WT/view?usp=share_link
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07. Even More About unending arguments
13m
Audio Only - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1bJyJxbGn8nUFXWIsngCce2VvUNrgKA-g/view?usp=share_link
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08. Advice for Participating and Injured Partners
9m 44s
Audio Only - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1nguOdTSekwlg_8oEqxNXegKsuc7xBH4E/view?usp=share_link
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23m
09. 4-Horsemen
23m
Audio Only - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1i-DSEy37u3uvezTizaLol-2NNparZOpb/view?usp=share_link
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10. Communication Example 4 Horsemen
6m 21s
Audio Only - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1JYNxp1dWgu0sgPBpjgl0YPTjsyEECvAd/view?usp=share_link
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11. Communication Example Piecemeal Revalations
5m 40s
Audio Only - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1yxqGyS17turuWA9wOEncQk72eIDXaTb-/view?usp=share_link
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4m 36s
12. Mind Reading
4m 36s
Audio Only - https://drive.google.com/file/d/18QbeejtPAk-aFtYLR_5jIAiZqgUeBswe/view?usp=share_link
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4m 5s
13. You Statements
4m 5s
Audio Only - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1Ut3BbD3-ZTPdlV4OcMbUiq3fP4eg4u6_/view?usp=share_link
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7m 10s
14. Taking Time Out
7m 10s
Audio Only - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1pT3XZS-LPKzsJnUnyAUZk9CYUUQ1v_jO/view?usp=share_link
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6m 48s
15. Sweeping Statements
6m 48s
Audio Only - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1dc9Vw_aWaqj9iT7hpDRsnEKvX05tfCZm/view?usp=share_link
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16. Negative Comments and Positive Requests
4m 53s
Audio Only - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1GdaS5lP3Zy4vbCChohvpHekUSjzsBkb8/view?usp=share_link
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1m 49s
Outro
1m 49s
Audio Only - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1Ti5Zm5dxDlXAX3ZXURnVG1SQM7FuquWe/view?usp=share_link
